Say Goodbye to you Inner Mean Mummy

Do you ever feel like there is a mean person, a mean mummy inside your head?

I’ve been there! It’s not fun. I lost my confidence and I felt terrible. 
It’s time to say goodbye to that part of you. It’s time to let it go. But how you ask?

First, the reason we act “mean” is because of the thoughts we are thinking. Self-critical thoughts like “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not worthy” or “I’m a terrible parent”. When we think negative thoughts like this, the result for us is feeling terrible and getting stuck in a cycle of negative self belief.

To get unstuck we have to change our thinking. The great news is, we have the power to do this! One thought at a time. 

I don’t believe in affirmations. If I start trying to convince myself that “I should win the mother of the year award” then my brain is going to tell me “that’s not true”. My brain is going to find proof for why I shouldn’t win the mother of the year award, so that seemingly positive thought is going to have the opposite effect.

So instead, let go of perfection. I did this by thinking “I’m not perfect and that’s OK”. Phew, do you already feel some relief!

And then I start thinking something I really believe. I’m going to offer you some thoughts to focus your mind on. If they resonate them, practice them daily by putting them on a sticky note where you see them every day. Read them and try and memorise them. When you start practicing these new thoughts, you are creating a brand new neural pathway. It may feel unnatural at first, but if you keep practicing, the neural pathway will become well travelled, the thought will become easier until you’ve practiced it so many time that it becomes automatic. It will become a BELIEF.

I am enough
I love being a mum
I love my children
I am worthy
I am there for my kids
We are learning together

The final idea I want to offer you, is to start treating yourself with curiosity and compassion. Go on try it. It will change your relationship with yourself. It will become a habit and you will start treating other people with curiosity and compassion too. It feels amazing.