People Pleasers are Not Kind

People Pleasers are Not Kind
By Nicky Hammond

Are you a people pleaser? Do you make decisions because you are afraid of what other people might think? 

People pleasers think they being kind but they are not being kind to themselves and sometimes not even or others.

People pleasers hold back the truth.

People pleasers fear what other people think and they take action from that fear.

People pleasers often are so busy pleasing others they end up losing the ability to know what they want.

I know this, because I was a people pleaser.

I want to help you by showing you how people pleasing plays out in life. 

You don’t get to be the real you.

People don’t get to know the real you. 

The people in your life like a version of you that is not even really truly you.

And often you end up doing things because you think it’s what others would want and you don’t even know what other people. You just keep trying to please at the expense of your time, your energy, your personal results and you being authentically you.

You end up feeling resentful.

And possibly acting a bit crazy. (I’ve been there.)
Now you get to decide.
If you want to be a people pleaser? 
If not:
- You can make decisions based on what you truly want.
- You can learn how to say no, from a place of love.
- You can stop lying.
- You can surround yourself with people who love you for being you.
- You can step into being authentically you.

It can feel scary, but you can totally do hard things. You got this mama!

One more thing, when we make decisions from an empowered place, rather than a place of fear, we can decide that we will attend that social event with our partner, even though it’s not our favourite thing, because we love him and we know that will make him happy. But the difference is we are not scared of what our partner might do or think if we don’t go. We decide to say yes from a place of love, freedom and empowerment. Can you see the difference? The shift in mindset is powerful.