How to Deal with Loneliness in 3 Step Process
By Nicky HammondLoneliness is a feeling that we try and avoid.
The most intense feeling of loneliness I remember was as a child sitting in a classroom full of people. I vividly remember the feeling scared by its power. From that day onward I tried to avoid any negative emotions. But now I understand what created that feeling of loneliness. I know some tools to relieve some of that emotional discomfort and I have learned how to move forward when I feel lonely. I’m going to teach yo...
Say Goodbye to you Inner Mean Mummy
By Nicky HammondDo you ever feel like there is a mean person, a mean mummy inside your head?
I’ve been there! It’s not fun. I lost my confidence and I felt terrible.
It’s time to say goodbye to that part of you. It’s time to let it go. But how you ask?
First, the reason we act “mean” is because of the thoughts we are thinking. Self-critical thoughts like “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not worthy” or “I’...
Why Do I Feel Out of Control When I Drink Wine, Check Facebook, Eat Chocolate and Binge on Netflix?
By Nicky HammondIf you don’t partake in any of these activities and sometimes feel out of control, you are a far more evolved human being than I am. I call the over usage of all these pleasurable activities - “buffering”.
We do these things to avoid our negative emotions – sadness, boredom, shame, anxiety, fear and even restlessness. We use the activities as a distraction from the discomfort of these emotions.
When we drink wine, check Facebook, eat choc...
Perfection. Is it Paralysing You?
By Nicky Hammond“I don’t do perfect”
I said these words out loud to my husband the other day.
I used to put off cleaning the bathroom for days, because I didn’t have time or energy to do a perfect job.
I would get angry at the kids because they weren’t doing well enough and it was a reflection that I wasn’t being a perfect mother.
I would often feel stuck. Or spinning. I just could not start for fear that it would not be good enough.
Is it Possible to Be More Present With Our Kids?
By Nicky HammondYes, it’s totally possible and here are some ideas for you that I have learned through my work as a life coach. There are no hard and fast rules in parenting, I would love for you to take the ideas that resonate and leave the ones that don’t.
One major obstacle holding us back from being more present with our kids, are our feelings. We feel restless and bored and agitated and frustrated and annoyed and disappointed. Yes, there is fun and enjoyment and love an...
Your Kids Should Not be the most Important in the Family
By Nicky HammondI saw an article titled “Your Kids Should Not be Most the Important in the Family” and it made me feel lots of things. Defensive, angry, upset but I also agreed with the statement.
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual. I’ve tried to follow a few cheat sheets - attachment parenting, conscious parenting, the Montessori approach… No matter how hard I tried, how hard I researched, I never felt like I was the best mum I could be. I just needed to try ...
Immunising Your Kids Against Cyber bullying
By Nicky HammondOur kids are living in a modern world where cyber bullies are rife. I hear mums worrying this Internet age where our children are so susceptible to other people’s opinions.
Just last week, there was a very public Australian cricket saga. In case you’ve been hiding under a rock (no judgement here, I often hide under a rock), some high profile person made a very serious error of judgement. He tampered with a cricket ball. He made a mistake. And the entire count...